Now don’t get me wrong, self-improvement is a wonderful thing and I truly admire everyone who is working to better themselves, be it in their physical health, mental health or if it’s just general personal betterments they are seeking. But I can’t take another year of New Year health resolutions and here’s why…

Every year it’s the same thing, ‘new year, new me.’ Yeah sometimes people say it ironically but more often than not it usually comes with a critique of their weight or appearance. Now how you want to appear is entirely up to you and I’d never dream of dictating what makes anyone beautiful, especially to themselves. All I ask is that we stop striving for a new version of ourselves every new year out of hatred towards the current version.

It’s true no one is perfect so there’s always room for improvement, but that can come in so many different forms, not just physical. No doubt you, as your own biggest critic have some feelings about yourself that makes you believe you’re nowhere near good enough, all because you aren’t a model. Well, I’m telling you, you are good enough and to stop that.

Let’s stop measuring our self-worth on how much we weigh, what we consume or how close we fit societies idea of ‘conventional beauty’. You’re far more than your weight and appearance. So before you start pulling apart everything about yourself with hurtful critiques this January, why not spend time admiring what’s great.

I only ask one thing and it’s really simple:

When you’re deciding these resolutions be it in the new year or any other time, do so only because it will fulfill you and make you happier.

None of this is to say that you shouldn’t exercise and diet if you want. I’m saying just do it because it’ll make you happier, not because your body needs punishing for being too handsy with the leftover Christmas chocolates. Making these changes from a place of love will have a far greater and longer impact on you.

One of the best things I did last year was follow, actress, activist, and presenter, Jameela Jamil’s i_weigh page on Instagram. Thousands of people of all shapes, sizes, and colours posting about all the things that truly matter in their lives. It’s been powerful seeing so many people demonstrate that there is far more to each and every one of us than what a number is on the scale. Considering the usual social media stream of models, diets and so forth, I’ve found it so much better for my mental health to see these posts from beautiful strangers, which in my opinion are far more inspirational.

Remember, if you want to make a change, do it because it makes you happy!